Products that can help a Woman get turned ON

At Condom-USA, America’s safer sex store, we are first and foremost about educating and promoting a healthy body and mind connection. We understand that the body and mind are one and work together. With this in mind, in order to have a healthy sexual identity one must first be healthy in one's choices. The body listens to what the mind tells it to do, so we must love ourselves, know ourselves, and be aware of what we want and desire in our sexual encounters. We must also be willing to protect our bodies and the body of others; therefore, safer sex is imperative to a healthy lifestyle. And with safer sex comes condoms. We opened our doors in 1992 in Miami’s trendy Coconut Grove. We are now strictly online but still very focused on our goals to educate and inspire. While times have changed a bit there is still a need to practice safer sex. STIs are still very prevalent and can be avoided as well with healthy choices and protection. With that being said we have always tried to carry the best in condoms and offer the most innovative products available on the market today.

Helper Outers for Her

Sex can often be complex, with a lot of emotions and feelings that may or may not get into the way of us as women relaxing and feeling comfortable enough for intimacy. If a woman has a lot on her mind, just like men who suffer from sexual anxiety, women too may suffer from time to time with not being able to get aroused. And it may or may not have anything to do with their partner. Often it can be hormonal as well, like right before our period or right after and menopause can cause havoc on our hormones. But there are products, non-invasive products that can help. One of the greatest inventions of all time is the warming lubricants, these can help us relax more and ease our way into intimacy. Most women would agree that foreplay is imperative, as we need time to get comfortable, especially when you work, take care of kids, home, school and other obligations, it's just not that easy to turn it on. So sometimes you need a little help. And that's what this podcast will be about, the Helper Outers for Her. Last episode we spoke about the Helper Outers for Him, so lets get started.

Helping a woman feel relaxed and comfortable enough to have sex—whether it's the first time or part of an ongoing relationship—requires emotional sensitivity, trust, communication, and a safe, respectful environment. Here are some practical and emotional recommendations that can make a big difference:

1. Emotional Safety and Trust First come First

Listen actively. Let her speak freely without interrupting or judging.
Respect boundaries. Never push or guilt her into anything.
Be emotionally available. Show that you care not just for sex but for her well-being as a whole.
Establish trust. This includes keeping promises, being consistent, and showing integrity.

2. Open Communication is very important if you want a strong relationship

Ask how she feels. A simple "Are you comfortable?" or "What do you like?" goes a long way.
Talk about desires and limits. Make her feel like she has full control over what happens.
Check in before, during, and after. Consent is ongoing and emotional comfort can shift.

3. Create a Relaxing Environment, while often overlooked but can make a huge difference

Soft lighting, clean space, warm temperature.
Pleasant scents (candles, essential oils like lavender or ylang-ylang).
Comfortable bedding or surfaces.
Music (calming, sensual, or whatever helps her feel good).

4. Don’t be afraid to Use Lubrication and Go Slowly

Lube reduces friction and helps reduce anxiety about pain or discomfort.
Take your time. Many women need extended foreplay to feel physically ready.

Kissing, massage, and touch can all help ease her into feeling aroused and connected. Oral sex is considered one of women's favorite forms of foreplay. Be sure not to rush it and make sure she is comfortable with this, a lot of times oral sex can help a woman feel aroused and sexy.

❤️ 5. Focus on Connection, Not Just Performance

Make her feel wanted, not used.
Eye contact, affectionate words, holding her before and after—these all matter.
Praise and reassurance can help if she has body insecurities or past trauma. Let her know she is beautiful and sexy.

6. Address Emotional or Physical Barriers

Anxiety, past trauma, or medical issues may affect her comfort with intimacy.
If she seems nervous or withdrawn, don't take it personally. Gently ask how you can help, and be open to not having sex until she feels truly ready. You will not be sorry if you show discipline with your desire she will trust you in the long run. And it is very sexy because it shows strength and discipline.
Some women benefit from therapy or sexual wellness coaching to work through deeper blocks. If you know someone who has been traumatized it may be helpful to reassure them that this is ok and that everyone needs therapy.

What women are saying…. a Female Perspective:

Many women say they feel comfortable when:

They’re not rushed.
Their feelings are validated.
Their partner is attuned to their reactions and their body.
Foreplay isn't a means to an end, but something enjoyable in its own right.
And they trust their partner to stop at any time if they change their mind.
And If the goal is to help a woman feel relaxed, safe, and physically comfortable enough to enjoy intimacy, there are several types of products here at Condom-USA that can support that, here’s a breakdown of recommended product types and specific options we carry:

1. Personal Lubricants, Essential for Comfort & Relaxation

Using the right lube can reduce anxiety about dryness, pain, or friction.

Top Picks from Condom-USA include:

Sliquid Oceanics – this is a Water-based lubricant, infused with seaweed extracts; it’s great for sensitive skin.

Coconu Organic Water-Based Lubricant – Natural, gentle, and also safe for sensitive tissue.
Intimate Earth Defense – With a guava bark extract for protection against irritation.
Pjur Woman Nude – A Hypoallergenic and free of additives lubricant; ideal for delicate and sensitive skin.

We carry a wide range of massage oils both water and oil based as well as Glides that work great for lubrication and massage. There is also the massage candles great for creating mood and using for a warm sensual massage.

2. Massage Oils Create Intimacy & Calm Nerves

Massage is a powerful way to create trust and physical ease.

Top Picks include a new product called HIGH ON LOVE Bath oil in Lavender. While a bath does help relax her this may be good for both bath and massage and the fragrance is perfect, as lavender calms and soothes. It is made with Hemp Seed oil and in small batches to ensure high quality. If you would like a massage product that is a little different with a clean and invigorating scent and a cooling sensation.

There is the Jo Naturals Peppermint and Eucalyptus oil. This can also be used as a lubricant. This comes in a 2oz bottle which makes it easy for travel as well.

Kama Sutra Aromatherapy Massage Oils – Scents like Pleasure Garden, Almond or Coconut Pineapple soothe and arouse the senses. The smells are amazing and the oil is the perfect texture.

There is also the Kama Sutra Oils of Love which are water based products and not meant for full body massage but can be used for edible massage and oral play. Placed on all the erogenous zones, inner thighs, breasts, lower stomach and then gently licked off, these can be a lot of fun and the more you blow on them the warmer they get. These are ideal for oral sex, just be sure not to overdo it, a little goes a long way.

Earthly Body Massage Oil Candles, and the kama sutra aromatherapy massage oil candles add a different spin on massage as you can use these candles to set the mood and act as a massage oil as well – containing 8 different oils including Hemp Seed OIl. You light the candle, let it set the mood, then pour onto her body for a warm sensual massage. The warmth and the aromatherapy are sure to relax her.

3. Arousal Gels which are great For Boosting Sensation Gently

These can help increase blood flow and sensation—great if she’s nervous or needs help warming up. There are the COOLING Lubes as well, that also add a tingle. Some prefer the cooling over the warming. The System Jo Agape Cooling Lubricant is a favorite and the HIGH CLIMAX Female stimulant an arousal gel that adds a tingle to enhance clitoral sensitivity. These are applied directly on the clitoris. They can be great for lubrication as well as arousal. They also give a fresh feeling, which many women like.

Top Warming Arousal gels include…

Intimate Earth Gentle Clitoral Gel – this is a lighter formula for sensitive women. And Intimate Earth Intense for those who like a little more warmth.

JO Volt 9V Arousal Gel – is also a Stronger formula, for when she's ready to experiment.

Another option is the AROUSAL OILS which last longer like the ON arousal oil that has a gentle warming effect and adds long lasting lubrication. This of course cannot be used with a latex condom. You must use a non latex polyurethane condom, like Lifestyles Skyn.

There is also the Hemp On Arousal oil, which is great as an anti-inflammatory and a longer lasting lubrication as well. These have been some of the best HELPER OUTERS FOR HER. And are great for those who want or need longer lasting lubrication.

We also carry Arousal Cremes for those who like something like a gel but with a heavier consistency. A good rule of thumb to remember is that the more oil the longer lasting, water based is great but does tend to dry quicker. The Dazzle Stimulating Cream is a great in between, with texture and consistency. It's not too heavy and not too light.

4. Atmosphere Enhancers such as Candles and Scents

Create a sensual, peaceful vibe

Massage candles, like Earthly Body and Kama Sutra Massage Candles – Double-duty as a warm massage oil and create mood lighting.

Massage oils that contain Essential oils – Look for calming scents like lavender, sandalwood, ylang ylang, vanilla or almond.

5. Beginner-Friendly Toys If and only if She’s Open to Exploring Gently

If she’s curious about toys but hesitant, go for something small, soft, and non-intimidating.

Soft Starters can include

Finger vibes or mini massagers – Like the We-Vibe Touch or a less expensive Vedo Wini Mini Rechargeable Wand Massager made from very soft silicone.

The Vedo Luv Mini into you Clitoral Massager is a great tool as well. Another toy that fits great in the palm of your hand almost like an extension of the hand itself is the Vedo izzy. And Loe the Rose is a customer favorite, one that also fits gently in your hand and is shaped like a beautiful rose, this toy mimics oral sex. Maybe leave it for her as a gift to remember you.

Couples’ rings are a favorite for beginners as well; they can have gentle vibration or reach higher, faster vibrations. The Nu Sensuelle Double Cock Ring is great for clitoral stimulation during sex and it also stimulates both partners.
There are also wearable vibes, while maybe not for beginners these vibes do help arouse, as they offer dual stimulation, so while you are having sex you are also being stimulated clitorally, there is a great chance for multiple orgasms when wearing one of these vibes. Top sellers here include the We Vibe Sync and We Vibe Chorus, the Venus Butterfly, and EVA by Dame products. Also worth mentioning is that the nipples for many people are an erogenous zone and nipple stimulation can help a woman get turned on. The Lovense Vibrating Rechargeable Nipple Clamps may be something you eventually work into the bedroom.

6. And of course remember your Body-Safe Condoms For Peace of Mind and Comfort, Customer favorites are…

The Kimono MicroThin Condom which is what it sounds like a very very thin condom, Ultra-thin for heightened sensitivity but still safe and strong.

GLYDE SlimFit – Vegan, body-safe, and ideal for sizing needs or those wanting a snugger fit, and they sure not to roll off.

Trojan Pleasure Pack which includes warming condoms and ribbed condoms designed just for HER.

Lifestyles Skyn for those allergic to latex and when using products that are oil based.

I mentioned earlier about Warming and Cooling Lubricants, while not for everyone, as some are more sensitive than others. Warming and Cooling Lubricants now come in gentle and more intense levels. And you can always start slow with just a dab, or you can use it as a body massage on the inner thighs or breasts. And the Kama Sutra massage oils I mentioned above are great for full body massage. The aromatherapy allows you to relax and ease your way into love making. No rush, just nice and easy. The intimate earth gentle serum and the intense serum lubricants are also worth mentioning here again as these are designed specifically for women.

The On Classic Arousal Oil and the on hemp for her arousal oil are oil based arousal serums that help a woman that may have difficulties with vaginal dryness or pain during intercourse. These oils last longer than water based lubricants since they are oil they do not dry up quickly. These are great for women going through menopause or after child birth. Again use the polyurethane condoms with all oil based products.

Massage is a great way to help your partner relax and enjoy the touch of another without penetration. Massage can be very erotic without actually involving sex at all. For many this is the best foreplay as there are no expectations, and this helps one to relax and really enjoy the moment. And many times, it does lead to sex. Above all else a woman is turned on when she trusts her partner, one who is patient, loving and caring.

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