Well to start off you want to make sure you are prepared mentally and emotionally with how you want to feel after having sex with someone. You are sharing your deepest part of yourself with another and you want to make sure this is someone you respect or it may end up being a horrible experience or one you would rather forget than remember. It sometimes takes some time to really get to know someone and you want to enjoy your time together and really get to know them. This can be a fun time to flirt and play with your partner. It makes sex so much hotter the longer you wait and play with one another. Anticipation heightens the sexual feelings and the bodily sensations. And it is fun getting to know the person and what makes them tick. It gives everyone the opportunity to feel safe and respected.

And then you need to be prepared physically. And I am not talking push-ups here, I am talking about condoms, lubricants and c. Be protected. Nothing is worse than having an intimate and memorable experience with your partner and then having to worry if you are pregnant or have a sexual transmitted disease, like HIV or Syphilis. You want to relish in the joy and satisfaction not worry and feel guilty.

Now you are ready to ask for consent or ask your partner hey would you like to get to know each other a little better, a little deeper? I have protection and I am up for discussing what you like and how you feel about having sex. "I want to know what you want, what you like, and I want to be honest with you about how that makes me feel. Its ok if you don't want to do certain things, there is no pressure and I respect your boundaries." Share your thoughts, concerns and desires. Be honest and be trustworthy and know that the person you are sharing yourself with respects and honors you. Happy love making!