In This Guide
Sex toys are tools — and like any tool, they work best when you know how to use them. This guide covers everything a first-time buyer needs: charging, lube, first use, cleaning, storage, and what to do when something isn't working.
There's nothing complicated about using a sex toy. If you've never used one before, the most useful information is: charge it fully, use lube, start at the lowest setting, and clean it after. Everything below is detail on those four points.
Before you start
- Read the instructions that came with your toy. Seriously — charging method, waterproof rating, and compatible lubricants all vary by product.
- Check what the toy is made of (listed in product specs) — this determines which lube is safe to use.
- Wash the toy before first use, even if it's brand new.
- Have lube ready before you start — water-based is safe with every toy type.
Charging your toy
Most modern rechargeable toys use USB magnetic charging or USB-C. A few older models use a standard USB cable. Very few budget toys still use disposable batteries.
Lube — why it matters
Lube reduces friction, increases comfort, and significantly improves sensation for most toys. It's not optional for anal use (the anal canal doesn't self-lubricate) and improves virtually every other experience too.
When in doubt: water-based lube is safe with every toy type. Keep a bottle next to every toy.
Your first use
Cleaning your toy
Clean your toy before first use and after every use. The cleaning method depends on material:
- Silicone (no motor): Wash with soap and warm water, or boil for 3–5 minutes to sterilise.
- Silicone (with motor): Wipe with a damp cloth or rinse under running water if IPX7 rated. Do not boil.
- TPE/TPR: Wash with soap and warm water. Cannot be sterilised — porous material.
- Glass or stainless steel: Wash with soap and water, or boil. Most durable option for sterilisation.
- Avoid: Bleach (on most materials), dishwasher (unless manufacturer specifies), abrasive cleaners.
Dry thoroughly before storing. Moisture in a stored toy creates bacterial growth.
Storage
- Store toys in a cool, dry place away from direct sunlight — UV degrades silicone over time
- Keep toys separated — some materials react chemically when stored in contact
- Most toys come with a storage pouch — use it
- Remove batteries from battery-powered toys before storage
- Don't store vibrators in the 'on' position — some power switches can accidentally activate
Troubleshooting
Toy won't turn on
Charge it. Most toys won't turn on below approximately 10% charge. Connect the charger and wait 15 minutes before trying again.
Toy turns on but has no power
Charge it fully. Vibrators running on low charge operate significantly below their rated intensity.
Toy isn't feeling like anything
Try different positions and angles. Many toys are highly position-dependent. Also consider whether you're fully aroused — most toys are more effective when the body is already responsive.
Toy feels too intense
Lower the setting or try a different position that reduces direct contact. Some toys are simply too powerful for some users at direct contact — indirect stimulation (through fabric or a thin layer) reduces intensity.
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FAQ
Do I need lube?
For anal use: yes, always. For vaginal use or external use: strongly recommended. Lube improves virtually every toy experience. Water-based is safe with every toy type.
How long do sex toy batteries last?
Rechargeable toys typically last 60–120 minutes at mid-intensity on a full charge. This varies significantly by motor quality and toy size. Battery-powered toys depend on battery type and motor draw.
Is it normal if a toy smells?
New toys often have a mild smell from the manufacturing process — this usually disappears after the first wash. A strong smell that persists may indicate a low-quality material that isn't body-safe. When in doubt, buy from a reputable retailer with clear material specs.
Can I use a sex toy in the shower?
If it's IPX7 waterproof — yes. 'Water resistant' or 'splashproof' is not the same as waterproof. Check the product spec specifically.
What's the most beginner-friendly toy?
A compact external vibrator (bullet or clitoral vibrator) for people with vulvas; a vibrating cock ring for couples; a small anal plug for anal exploration. Simple controls, obvious use, easy to clean.
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